How to heal a broken heart : Self Help

It has not ended yet

If you read articles on human brain, you would know that it works either on electrical signals or chemical signals. Chemical signals are produced by hormones and are generally stronger than electrical ones. So, if you ever find yourself helpless to resist something or someone, then nothing but these chemical signals are to blame. In general, these signals make us feel emotions and make us human but it is very important to control them because uncontrolled emotions always drive a person crazy. So it suggests that strong electrical signals in brain increase IQ and strong control over chemical signals increases EQ (Emotional Quotient).

A research says that love is also a similar hormone driven emotion planned by nature to run a continuous reproduction. As all know that reproduction is a painful process and demands a great deal of responsibility, a person would never indulge in reproduction if there was no emotion and pleasure. Study also shows that love makes us disoriented.

I am not a love hater; rather the above paragraphs are only to show that it is not an end if you feel so because of a broken relation. Please read slowly and I will show you how to win this situation. First I will ask some questions-

1.     Do you find it difficult to focus? If yes, why?

2.    Are you sleeping deprived? If yes, why?

3.    Do you feel uninterested in everything? If yes, why?

4.    Do you feel suicidal? If yes, why?

5.    Do you hate eating? If yes, why?

6.    Do you want to be alone and just think about your ex every time? If yes, why?

7.    Do you really want to have your ex back? Why don’t you try then?

If the last question has a “No” as the answer, then only you need to answer the other questions.

In the first six questions, I have asked a ‘why’ for every “YES”. You might have many answers, you might even get emotional, but believe me all the whys have only one correct answer which you need to find. I’ll be a little harsh at this time and would say that you do so because you have accepted this fake idea that you don’t have the strength to overcome and you are institutionalized to the present condition. Remember, these conditions don’t have a long life, they either makes you better or bitter, all that matters is how you react. After this gets over, I can bet that you would like to lead a happy life and wouldn’t want to regret any wrong decision.

All my friends, who feel weak at being strong, need to ask these questions to their own selves -

1.     Is my ex, the only person around me to love? Was he/she even worth it? If yes, what happened then?

2.    Why do I do what I do? Don’t I have my own life?

3.    What do I really want? What are the consequences?

4.    What are my options?

5.    Do I respect myself?

6.    Do I trust my abilities?

Please don’t hurry in answering the last two questions as they are very important and you need to think very clearly for them. These two are the key questions and if the answer is not yes then you must put all possible efforts to make it “YES”. Remember, never mix self-respect and self-confidence with ego. Once you answer positively to the last two questions, you have become a person with enormous abilities and unlimited options who knows that he/she can acquire anything he wants if he tries positively hard. Since you have solved half of your problem, now you believe that letting your ex get off your mind might take time but you will do it.

There might be times in the process when you will face difficulties, you just need to take charge and blow negative thoughts with constructive ones. Some points may definitely help you-

1.     Never run away from work, give your 100% to everything. Keep yourself busy. It will also provide you purpose.

2.    Try to stay away from metal, blue, love, rap music. It will drive you emotionally.

3.    Never be in the company of the kind of people who are fond of needlessly being sad every time. It is disastrous.

4.    Alcohol may seem to be helpful, but you may lose track of your mind. Try to avoid this as it will only lead to confusion.

5.    Don’t think about future, plan it.

6.    Never ever make any big decision when you are high on adrenal, hold it till you are calm.

7.    Never complain as the listener would either make fun or sympathize, which are both bad.

8.    Never try to show anyone that you are the kindest person on earth, trust me it is useless. Just be yourself.

9.    If you find your life unexciting, then use your creativity to make it that way.

10.  Your work must be your priority, believe me it is the loveliest thing in this world.

Well, trying to be kind, writing this article would be successful if even one person finds it helpful. If you think that the directions showed you the right path then you must have become a stronger and better person. Of course there are many other ways of getting over, still I suggest, a constructive approach towards a problem is the best to have.